I’m not a very big fan of egos. There’s this fun relational psychology game I like to play with people where I make them picture a desert and in the middle of the desert there’s a cube. The size of the cube they picture is equal to the size of their ego. Almost always the answers I hear completely align with the kind of ego that person has and trust me, some people picture huge ass cubes.
I’ve found over the years that I’m a very self-deprecating person. I am the queen of self-deprecating jokes. People who are also equally as self-deprecating, attract me. There’s something about embracing your flaws for what they are and making them known that is very humbling to me.
Now, let me clear this up by saying, your flaws should never be used as an excuse for anything. You should never use your flaws as part of an apology. If you’re a liar, you’re a liar, if you’re a cheater, you’re cheater, and those are flaws you need to work on. I’m talking about other flaws we innocently have that we just can’t help sometimes. For example, I am always late. For everything. I am not athletic, or graceful in the slightest. I can be very naive and have had my fair share of dumb moments.
Ultimately, I recognize my flaws for what they are and I embrace them. I joke about them. I will never understand people who are absolutely sure they’re good at everything. People who swear they are pros at life are exactly the kind of people who are not. Tell me more about how you’re amazing at every sport and how you’re simultaneously a boss cooker. I’ll be the one in the back yelling “get you a girl who can’t do either!”
I need you all to understand something: you are not perfect. No one is. We all have things we aren’t proud of, things we’re not good at. All of your good traits and bad traits are what makes you, you. And there’s no one like you. You are a handcrafted, one-of-kind, individual.
So sit down, be humble! Recognize that it’s okay to have flaws. It’s okay to make fun of them.
You are perfectly incomplete and I love you that way.
Song: Masterpiece by Jessie J